How to tell if your re connecting with people

I want to talk to you today about connecting in a deeper way to those who are in your sphere of influence.

Do you ever feel like you are talking and no one is actually hearing you? 

It sort of like when you are a phone call and the other person loses their cell signal and you are still speaking because you don’t realize they aren’t listening.

I’ve been known to do that when talking to my husband when he is traveling and feel pretty embarrassed that I have kept talking and didn’t realize for a minute or so that he had lost his cell signal.

We realize pretty quickly on a phone call when our connection has been interrupted or no connection is being made, but we don’t in general recognize it as easily in our everyday interactions with others.

The question we must ask ourselves is this: Do we value the people in our sphere of influence to invest in becoming a better communicator that learns to connect with them with them better?

Here are few ways to evaluate how well you connect with others. Understand that you may connect and have more influence with one of group of people in than you do with another group of people. An example could be that you connect better with your family than your co-workers, or quite the opposite. You feel like the team you work with are connected and move like a well oiled machine while your family and kids don’t work so much as a team that is connected, but more like a bunch of wild animals. 

The great news is that these leadership principals, found in John Maxwell’s book, Everyone communicates, few connects, can help you connect more through your communication in every area of your life.

So How do you know if you are connecting with others? 

 When you are interact with people, whether one on one, in a group, or with an audience, are these signs present:

  • Do people go the extra mile in their effort to do what you are communicating needs to be done?
  • Do they say positive things?
  • Do they show trust with you?
  • Do they seem to be able to express themselves easily to you?
  • Do they walk away from their interaction with you and consider it a positive experience?
  • Do they feel connecting to what you are communicating on an emotional level ?
  • Do they feel that they are part of something bigger than themselves and want to contribute?
  • Are they accepting of others and you more readily being influenced with your connection with them?

If you can’t answer these questions with a resounding yes, then you need to improve your ability to connect with people.

 Everyone talks. 

Everyone communicates. But few connect. 

Those who do connect take their relationships, their work, and their lives to another level. 

If you want to learn how to connect and thereby become more effective in everything you do, there’s good news.

Even if connecting with others isn’t something you’re good at today, you can learn how to do it better and connect more today than you did yesterday.

I am convinced that I can help you to learn how to connect with other people. That’s the reason I love walking people through John Maxwell’s book,  Everyone Communicates, Few Connect. 

In the first part of the book, we will learn the five principles that are foundational for understanding how to connect with people.

In the second part, you’ll learn five practices that anyone can do to connect with others—regardless of age, experience, or natural ability. Learning to connect with people can change your life. Ready? Let’s get started.

Sign up at for my 10 week mastercourse based on John Maxwell’s book ECFC. The cost is normally $99, but is only $19.99 right now.

You can also sign up for  my wait list to get into one of my leadership mastermind groups or sign up for a free leadership coaching session.

My 10 week master course will be delivered weekly to you and will include a video, notes and assignments to apply that week’s leadership skills in your everyday life which will hopefully turn into life long habits.

Certified John Maxwell Leadership Coach

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